What was so special about her that he loved her so much and he treated me like crap? Actually, better question was, what was she lacking that he didn’t marry her but married me instead. Without even digging, I knew I was wife material.
I loved family, ALL of it. I was resilient and I let a lot of things slide because, “ life was too short”. I actually liked to cook and clean for everyone (I still do J ). I was very much a domesticated creature yet I loved being social and could have all sorts of conversations with random strangers. I guess am adaptable, personable, loving, caring and most of the time I put others needs before my own. He recognized these traits in me before I knew they existed. I have learned this about myself through my journey about who I really am. I would give a stranger the shirt off my back if I needed to. I did lots of volunteer work and loved spending time with orphans and the less fortunate. I feed and LOVE the entire neighborhood; I will take care of anyone blindly if it’s required. Through our few conversations on the phone, he knew all of this about me and I feel he took advantage of a “nice” girl to please his family. I was the girl next door with love in her heart and a smile that matched her outlook for this world.
I starting searching for answers about her and boy did I find! I started out by asking his brother, Sunny, about information about their relationship and boy did he tell! He let me know that she was a huge part of their family. She came over for all the holidays and celebrations and was a part of the family. She even attended some weddings with the family as Raj’s girlfriend. He shared many stories about her leading me to the conclusion she was accepted whole heartedly by the parents.
Then I moved onto the girlfriends and wives of his friends and again, if you ask you shall receive!!! I heard a lot about her. She was nice but somewhat inappropriate at times. I was told her nickname by the other girls was “cleavage”. Apparently when everyone went out together no one wanted to hang out with her as she was rude and obnoxious when she was drunk. She was nice to the girls but the girls say they didn’t really like her personality as she was the “partying type.” Some said they dreaded her arrival because they never knew what to expect of her, she was a wild card. Not a single girl from “the group” said they really liked being with her or if she was even good for Raj. One girl did say her mother in law had received a call from Raj’s mom asking for help in breaking up their relationship, hmmm…
My research found that she was a party girl who liked to drink, helped herself to drugs and dressed in skimpy clothes. It seemed that Raj followed her around like a lost puppy and was committed to being with her despite the advice of his friends gave him to dump her. She may have been the lost girl and Raj was going to “fix” her?
Nobody really said anything positive her. In contrast when I would be talking to my sources, they would compare her and I say that I was a god send in comparison. Once girl confessed how confused she was at the engagement when she saw me instead of her. She thought maybe she wasn’t remembering the other girl right. She said a few of the girls were whispering at the wedding ceremony about the bride mix up. Clearly they were expecting her and not me to walk down the aisle! At the reception the girls openly talked with their partners and the guys said they weren’t interfering with Raj’s life. They didn’t want to get involved in what he was doing to whom and advised the ladies to do the same.
I had heard enough I needed to hear from people time to move onto my next assignment, breaking into his email and phones…