I feel like I’m completely crippled by #metoo. Like a princess in her castle with no escape route. Daily torture by the king of the castle, it isn’t even good enough for him. He must see me being broken visibly for him to be able to digest his food and smile.
Broken and shattered with a glimmer of hope.
#metoo is a great movement but how can women of abuse actually be helped? I’m a #metoo supporter and I’ve been abused so many times that its become my “normal”. This movement has got me thinking more than ever how to live my life on my terms. I get all pumped up and then there is my reality. After the #metoo walks and discussions I go back to the nightmare, my personal hell. Empowered, liberated and hopeful are feelings when I’m surrounded by those who share my view. Devalued, hopeless, powerless and sad are what I feel like when I go back ‘home’. The walks and talks haven’t helped me fix my physical situation which require money.
A modest income, 2 teen kids and bills that would make anyone throw up (on a budget). How am I supposed to “leave”. Living and children expenses are holding me hostage in a home that is killing me slowly! I’m not even asking for much, I would like to be able to pay for rent with normal expenses that come with living and supporting my 2 teens. NOT POSSIBLE! After careful analysis of my income vs my expenses, NOT POSSIBLE.
I have a decent job, with good moral/values topped off with a love for life served with a forever smile and I won’t be able to make it financially. Because of the financial need I will have to continue to let him torture, belittle, play mind games and kill me from the inside out.
I have done everything “right” in my life and yet I might have to put my kids on a pull out sofa in a rodent infested home. Not sure how I ended up like this but could really use a break universe!
I know I’m not as stupid as he tells the kids. I may not be slim but I know that I’m not as revolting as he convinces me some days. Useless to him as he points out daily, but I know I’m not. Others complimenting me, he tells me people always tell the ugly they are pretty to make themselves feel better. Anyone can cook, it’s not like your cooking gourmet meals – he’s right, I don’t cook gourmet meals but dammit I try almost 7 night a weeks to cook from scratch!
We need a movement that helps all victims who are stuck in awful situations to get out and not have to starve or go on the system. Yes I can get another job and never be home, who will raise the kids? Who will see if they are okay if I’m not there? Kids need parents to raise them not to raise themselves.
Feeling hopeless with no options happens to many on a daily basis, it breaks us. We continue to live lives we can’t take anymore but we somehow manage to do so. We show the world we can, just barely.
What changes can we make world where people don’t have to stay in abusive situations because of money? Money doesn’t buy happiness but it does buy us the freedoms we need to live a normal life. Money is very important otherwise millions of people wouldn’t be stuck in shitty situations.